Maturity

While surfing the internet (which today for us is as normal as eating & sleeping) i came across an article which discussed in length about how mature women tend to behave. Well, it surely left me baffled as to how we change with time, environment and circumstances. I know you will say its obvious. Considering my age may be i found it a bit harsh to accept the comparison that some mature women are like books who need not be read but are like thought which can only be thought about.

The comparison between a man and a woman has been going on from the time immemorial. Now that when both the genders have started going to the moon we have become conscious of the fact that we equally need to respect each other. Respect comes naturally with age and deeds and in this regard maturity grows. Now how do we define a matured women? My answer cannot be a representative of the entire female clan but surely a certain percentage will surely agree with my views.

Maturity comes with handling situations, complications and the various predicaments of life. Problems are brain teasers which leaves us flummoxed and emotionally drained at times. But a mature handling helps us to ease our problems and gain a new perspective which seems invisible while in the midst of problems. At times problems are like quagmire where we easily slip into but a mature thinking can steer us away from drowning. To me maturity is handling your in laws tacitly, lovingly convincing your child to eat what he/she hates the most, assuring your self that you can lose your weight when you know its a Herculean task or keep on smiling even when you are in deep pain. Situations always helps us to grow. A teenager can be far matured than a lady in her late twenties. So depending upon circumstances and person to person can m,aturity be understood not by notion or judgment.

May be my perspective fails to refute you, but then at the end of the day these are my words, my thoughts which i just wanted to share with you. Your thoughts are welcome as well.... Cheers!!!

Web-tangle....

Hello there, off late lots of things in life have been keeping me hooked to the extent that i do not find time to visit my neighbors. Strange, ehhh!!! I know and if by chance you are a warm friendly candid person reading these lines i bet you wont have many good things to say about me. (Chuckles!!!) Such is the tenacity of the web world which almost keeps me glued to the extent that at times i miss my favorite serials which i myself find unbelievable...

Of course, my mother never fails to warn me about the damage that its gonna cause to my already poor eyesight but only to be followed by tumultuous discussion. The web world is such a huge platform where perhaps we all try to rediscover ourselves be it through the social sites where we discover our long lost friends, or floating our resume, portfolios, playing numerous games, blaring our opinion on any issue and what not. Irrespective of all the above mentioned good things, at times we fall prey to this world as well. We are cheated, fooled by fraudulent means and then perhaps we start cursing as to why this invention was made.

I know a lot of people will have their stories to share about how they were tricked to provide their personal details only to regret later. The irritating pop ups at each one of our screens at times deviates our minds from our works thus stepping towards the uncharted territory. Now you will tell me that there are ways to block those pop ups, but please spare a thought for those old aged people who use computers and internet to pay their bills which they find hard to pay standing in the queue or for playing some games. I recently came across an old man who otherwise looked sensible enough to handle internet and computers but made some unintentional error of entering his credit card number at some unreliable site only to receive a long receipt at his home after a few days for the purchase which he wasn't aware. Fortunately for him there were mentors who took some appropriate actions to stop further purchases.

We all have heard these stories from friend's friend or some one further than that, besides, reading about them in the newspaper & of course in the internet, yet at times we tend to get inadvertent.

As George Berkeley said, "It is natural for careless writers to run into faults they never think of". So my friend, look before you leap....

Good Living...

Good places, good food, good music what else one need to spend a weekend? I wouldn't dare say that about life. With the advancement of possibly everything our tastes in every sphere has changed. Weekdays are for neck breaking work whereas weekends are meant for chilling out. Now chilling out differs at different levels.

We have barbecues, pool parties, theme parties but just spare a thought for those unfortunate ones who cannot even manage two square meals a day.In the weekend we go to watch a movie and blare our verdict the next day or the same day at social sites but there are people who cannot even sit under the humble fan to beat the heat owing to shortage of electricity, yet who cares. We teach our children 'sharing is caring' but every time the other child tries to play with our child's ball or toy in the park we give a tight smile. Each one of us are madly running after good life, money, power but do we really care about wisdom? I certainly cannot render an opinion that would be the representative of the common population.

You may be wondering what exactly on earth am i referring to? Well, recently an advertisement to remove malnutrition and fight hunger triggered my interest to think about it. Even i am also aware of the fact that simply writing 1500 words isn't going help either but sharing my thoughts can surely help spread the message. The photographs of the malnourished children prompted to think twice each time i wanted to throw any food items. My childhood was spent listening to my parents who always advised not to waste any thing but i always let the wind carry those words along. Now when i have one or two gray strands i do realize what they exactly meant!!!!

Leading a good life is every person's dream but we can always in some way contribute for those unfortunate ones who aren't blessed with the things which we take for granted. Let no child ever go hungry to bed, let no child ever cry for some milk, let every child understand the importance and appreciate what he or she gets. Comparison leads to nowhere and contentment is like sustenance.

Well without getting didactic let me watch or read some more heart melting issues so that i too can learn some invaluable lessons from life. Till then enjoy your weekend!!!!

Memories....

When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. Wow, what an excellent piece of thought. We all have memories some which we we love to cling and hold on to our heart and perhaps some which we bury them. With time even memories fade away yet there are memories which can never be deleted. Marriage, childbirth, our first job or salary which are life time experiences are those wonderful ones which always remain special and enriches our memories.

I miss my childhood days, my fun & frolic with my sibling and friends and those memories which makes me smile whenever i think of them. Not all memories are wonderful yet it is always better to eschew the sadistic ones. Bad memories in some cases leads to revenge, jealousy, resentment turning a person into covetous. We deliberately keep those memories fresh so that the pain caused by them reminds us to beat them & move ahead in life. Well condonation doesn't come easily. We terminate our relationships when bad memories adds fuel to the unwanted happenings in our life. Ask any mother about her childbirth and her eyes will sparkle but ask any couple who have been through tumultuous relationship the difference need not be stated.

As a wise man said always wear a smile who ever crosses your way because that may be the only smile he sees in the entire day. A smile serenades and adds to your good memories. Analyze yourself and ask how much good and bad memories you have about any given circumstances of life. The answer will perhaps help you to erase those unwanted ones and embrace life more gleefully...

Foood for Thought

Ok, ok so a lot of people all over the world keep on emphasizing about health, fitness, diet food and doling out what to eat and what not. Now that the World Cup is over and you have accumulated a flab around your tummy munching those popcorn laced with butter and the so called diet sodas (which in fact do contain calories). You are coaxing yourself why did you let yourself have those sinful pastries at the recent party at your friends place. The wedding you recently attended must have surely allured you to dig at the lavish spreads. And now.....Of course u find your jeans a bit uncomfortable or your tummy tucked out a bit or your envious cheekbones camouflaged by some ounces.

Well, we all think so much about our diet these days. We want to eat but want to remain fit. Do they always go simultaneously? Only the lucky ones can afford to agree. The internet is flooded with articles and journals about diets, dietary food, crash diets and what not. The calorie conscious people perhaps scan every item they pick from the shelves of the grocery before they buy or have it. Not all of us have the will power to control our tongue. Our tongues are constantly tantalized by the butter cookies, pastries that we see or the juicy chicken that we find hard to resist. We have them without any panic only to crib later on. Lets not forget the vegetarian who like their share of veggie rolls, fries and dips loaded with fat and calories.

To possess good health is a blessing and to maintain that is our dedication. But lets not deprive ourselves from eating, munching which is also a joy in itself. Of course calorie conscious will frown if by chance they go through these lines. At times food acts a stress buster but in that process we tend to eat more which is unhealthy as well. I do not want to divulge deep regarding what should be consumed or what not but what i want to share is if you really love food never deprive yourself. Sometimes the real taste of life lies in food.

I-ce-cream

Its been a while that i have really thought of writing something really concrete other than any plain vanilla topic. Vanilla, hmm it really used to be favorite amongst a lot of our friends. The concept of hot fudge wasn't really in so we always used to play safe either vanilla or strawberry. Once i was quite amused when in an ice cream parlor i saw in the menu card it was written 'ice cream brick'. My eyes began to roll wondering what possibly it could be and without even consulting anyone i ordered for it. My cousins were amused with my choice & waited with bated breath for my order to arrive.

Well, yes my order did arrive and as the waiter proceeded with my order everybody passed a sheepish smile and it caught the attention just like when our sizzlers arrive in a restaurant. Now brick was something i really i hadn't expected. It has a huge bar or a slab whatever you call it was enough to feed an army considering my age. I surreptitiously tried to hide my foolishness and my cousins tried all the possible ways to make me feel all the more miserable.

To mitigate the situation i asked all my cousins to bail me out of the situation who funnily suggested to get the remaining packed for home. Poor soul, i didn't even realise that by the time i reached home it would melt and it would be no better than a flavored milk shake. But their eccentric jokes on me & my ice cream didn't end and till to date it becomes a hot topic of discussion when ever we meet.

Days gone by, well some memories are so sweet that even we do not want part away with. But i confess i have certainly become more prudent while i order for my ice creams fearing the fact that history always repeats itself....

Questionarrie

How often i feel i have so many questions suppressed in my heart? Perhaps a lot. Some whose answers i know but i do not want to acknowledge, some i fear to face & some i want to ask but do not the right people whom to ask. Am i being judgmental? Questions questions and so many.

Walking through this journey of life there have been numerous occasions when life asked me questions to which i perhaps answered efficiently & got awarded & some which i couldn't and still lagging behind in that arena. Its ironical that when we want something desperately it goes beyond our reach. You might be feeling i am talking about something virtual but not the case. When as a student our parents coaxed and cajoled us for doing something out of syllabus we never paid heed, now that i can manage some decent time for my own i do not get the opportunity to go ahead with my desires. Funny, i know. People do not the realize the difference between interest and necessity and poor fellows like us are the suffering end.

Every cloud has a silver lining and without sounding despondent i want to welcome every single moment of my life with equal fervor so that in the next decade my mind isn't flooded with so many questions.